Creating a Memorial Garden: Honoring Loved Ones with Plants

The transition of seasons can bring to mind those we’ve lost. Autumn in particular seems a time for looking inward, with busy schedules slowing down, cooler weather taking us indoors and the change of the light.

When someone we love dies, we may find ourselves looking for ways to connect with that person’s memory. That may look like cooking a familiar family recipe or listening to a favorite song. For some of us, it’s spending time in nature. 

The healing power of nature is well documented. Whether it’s a slow walk through a park or a quiet morning on the beach, the outdoors provides a quiet space for reflection. One way to honor a loved one’s memory while connecting with nature is through a memorial garden. 

A memorial garden is a dedicated space that acts as a living tribute to someone you’ve lost. Generally consisting of plants, trees, and sculptural elements that hold special meaning, each memorial garden is unique and personal. When designing a memorial garden, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Location

An ideal place to start building your memorial garden is by selecting a space in your yard that gets good light and has adequate drainage. This way, your memorial garden can be a spot for quiet reflection all year long. If you don’t have a yard, choosing a corner on a deck or patio also works. 

Environment and Climate

It goes without saying, but different plants thrive in different environments. Choose plants that are adapted to your region to ensure your memorial garden thrives. Regionally appropriate plants also support pollinators – like birds and butterflies – which can be symbols of hope, transformation and rebirth.

Plants

Choosing plants can be one of the most personal parts of creating a memorial garden. Some people select flowers that are their loved one’s favorite color or a reminder of a place they shared together. Others are drawn to plants with symbolic or spiritual meanings. Rosemary has long been associated with remembrance, while roses and tulips can represent different kinds of love. Snowdrops are a strong symbol of hope, rebirth and new beginnings.

Not all plants have to have a special meaning to be included in your memorial garden. Lavender, hyssop, Russian sage, sundrops, forget-me-not and penstemon are all water-wise plants that offer color and shape, and bloom in intervals throughout the year.

Looking for Inspiration?

If you're looking for ideas, spend some time wandering the Gardens. Notice the places that make you slow down, the plants that bring back memories or the combinations of color and texture that feel peaceful and comforting.